We have to become the type of person that the person we’re looking for is looking for. But somehow when it comes to love and romance, there is an assumption that we don’t need to ourselves.That somehow commitment will trump the needs for preparation.
AS: Sex is not just physical even though that is the way the culture and media often treat it.
When a woman is raped or a child is sexually abused, they don’t just shake it off and go on as if they were merely mugged.
Our sexuality goes way beyond what is physical, and we see that especially in the realm of sexual abuse.
RNS: Word on the street is that your church is becoming “gay-friendly,” whatever that means.
The average person would hear that and say, “That’s not true.” But that is the approach most people take to romantic relationships.
The new rule is: don’t assume that just because you feel right, everything is going to be alright.
But when that begins to wane, the relationship can go in the same direction. It says that the relational part of the relationship should take precedent over the sexual or physical component of the relationship.
[tweetable]If you’re looking for a long-term relationship, put the relational component ahead of the sexual one.[/tweetable] RNS: How can a history of sexual abuse impact the way these rules function in your life?
The pastor of one America’s largest churches is peeling back the covers on topics that might make some Christians squirm.
Andy Stanley, pastor of the 30,000 member North Point Ministries, addresses a range of issues from human sexuality to pornography in his latest book, The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating.
While the broader culture continues to fight over what “sexual morality” means, one thing is certain: Andy Stanley is determined not to sit this one out.