If you or she is naturally a busy person, you can extend that timeline. If she takes 20 minutes to respond, mirror that timing. It’s highly unlikely that she will respond with “I’m busy everyday next week” because that sounds like bullshit.Whats App is more of a real-time chat than SMS (hence why I like it). Very few people have plans every night of the week. Then don’t contact her until she returns, and meanwhile move on to setting up dates with other women.Most women will message me within 24 hours of the transition request.
Tinder, Happn and these other fancy apps hadn’t been invented. After completing my profile I sat back and waited for the messages to come pouring in. Just like in real life it was up to me as the man to make the approach. I don’t care what app or dating site you are on, as a man you need to be initiating conversations with tens of girls before you get a response. Below I’m going to outline a strategy you can use to ensure you are not one of those men, and increase the number of women you get from online dating to a first date. It is your role as a man to ask her out and either be rejected or win the prize. That shit is not only needy but it’s also incredibly creepy.
Right now I would guess my response rate to an initial message is about 5%. Because if you get a response to your opening message then your odds of getting a first date are excellent, especially if you do it right. I’m not going to teach you what to send in an opening message, or how to engage in the conversation. And if you follow the process your chances of being rejected will dramatically decrease (you will still be rejected though…many times…deal with it). Chatting online is not about: The purpose of chatting online is to make her feel attracted and safe enough to meet you in person.
You can see when she is online and has seen your messages. Here’s what most men do, and what you should never, EVER do again: When you’re ready to propose the first date, do it in a similar fashion to the transition proposal. It is possible though, but only expect that response 5% of the time. When I don’t use the line above, I’ll go with something like “Where in London are you based?
Therefore, once you get her into conversation, keep responding! The only exception is if she is about to head away on holiday. I’m not a fan of overly long messaging back and forth so let’s meet up in ‘real life’ (scary I know) and find out more about each other”.
Her response is typically “I’m in X, let’s definitely meet – not a fan of long messaging either” At this point, she will generally respond with nights she is busy and nights she is free.
She knows you are about to ask her out, so will make it clear when she is available.
If either of those situations occur, I will say “Cool. Again, notice how I am not phrasing it as a question.
I am giving an excuse to meet in real life (because I don’t like lots of messaging) and am just saying “if you agree that long messaging sucks then you should come on a date with me”.
Most girls, especially if you haven’t met them in person won’t do this and will make you suggest another day.
Also notice how my message isn’t as dominant as the previous exmaples.
If the conversation is flowing, go for it as soon as possible.