At the beginning of our relationship, my friends were concerned that his age automatically revealed his readiness to have a long-term relationship and plan a future together.
My boyfriend and I are not immune to the effects of these judgments.
Just a month ago, we had to have talk about whether or not we should stay together or break up — simply because of the pressure put on us from hearing so many critical opinions about our relationship.
Ultimately, my boyfriend and I have concluded that our love is too deep, intense, and “once-in-a-lifetime” to let it go.
There are days when the weight of it all leaves me immobilized, sad, and unable to focus on anything.
I remind myself that no one can predict the future.
People say to him, “But what if she can’t have children?
I have now resolved that it is not my job to win other people over.
I now realize that it is not my role to win over family, friends, or anyone else who may wish to make a statement about our relationship.
I am aware that people often judge what they do not understand.