Would you rather spend one hour getting ready, 30-minutes driving to meet them, then waste an evening on a bad date OR 15 minutes on the phone talking with them to see if they are a good fit for you? I know what I’d prefer to do: hang in my pajamas on the phone instead of dressing up for disappointing date.
Talking on the phone BEFORE you go out with them also builds trust.
She’d spent her early 20s in the closet and now felt like a novice starting over again as a lesbian. Some people think the dating rule book is different for lesbians, but, really, dating is dating no matter the sexual orientation or gender identity of the person sitting across from you.
You experience symptoms such as frustration, dread, and boredom with online dating.
You log in to find your mailbox flooded with generic messages: hi, hello, how’s it going, I like your eyes and your smile. You’re struggling to write another unique, interesting message, but you’re just not sure how to take it from online to a first date—or, you’ve found yourself speed-dating through awkward, uncomfortable first dates. I’m here to teach you an easy, three-step process that will teach you how to navigate from the first message in your inbox to screening your first dates so dating becomes again and dating fatigue is a thing of the past.
For singles, like my friend, who feel unsure about how to approach women online, we’ve come up with nine lesbian-specific online dating tips that can point you in the right direction and get you chatting up lovely ladies in no time.
To be successful at online dating, you need to pick the right dating site for you.
When you start online dating, keep a list of singles who catch your eye.
This is a list of people that you would be interested in contacting and knowing more about. This way, when you log into your account to check your messages or actively write to someone, you have a list of singles you want to contact instead of browsing for new singles.
Regardless of your sexual orientation, really, you should be reaching out, even if it feels awkward or vulnerable at first.
Writing first gives you three advantages: What about the people who don’t respond to your messages?
Once you’ve exchanged a few emails on the site, take the writing offline to a personal email account by using a similar script below: “I’d love to be able to write to you more regularly, but it’s hard for me to log into the site during my workday; I’m always on my i Phone/Android, though.
Why don’t you give me your regular email address so we can reach other more easily?
A mainstream dating site with an established base provides more opportunity to meet people, and most of the top dating platforms cultivate LGBTQ-friendly spaces.