"In other words, a second date will always be flat if women go out with a guy again that they're not that excited about, and their only goal is to 'think about it more' or figure out how they feel. Consider choosing something that will allow you to talk and get to know each other. For the most part, men are so used to planning dates that if you say, “Let me plan this date and take you out," you’re already ahead of the curve. Pick a venue, or activity that he will love and this date will really stand out.
Ithier, motivational speaker and relationship expert with Speak Life; Nora Kenyeres with Match Made Abroad; Michelle A.
Roberts, MA , doctoral student; Chris Armstrong, relationship coach and owner/operator of Maze of Love; Dr.
You might feel more comfortable around him, but it is too early to feel too relaxed. Even if you are not a goddess in the kitchen, you can still fix a simple meal. Keep the conversation about positive things in your life.
Let him help open a bottle of wine and appreciate his help. It is too early to tell him about your frustrating boss, your noisy neighbours and your personal problems. If the first date was a success you basically talked about things you both liked. Make memories to achieve that do something different like the zoo, the circus, a cooking or dancing class or a place like Sips and Strokes, where you can drink what you desire and paint a picture to take home of your choice. Know what you would like to get out of it before you go on it.
Bring them up again, but in a way that continues the conversation.
If he spoke about any of his passions or side projects, ask for an update on how things are going. No matter how much of a gentleman he is, the gesture of paying for part of, or all of the date will come off as very attractive.
The trick to having a great second date with someone is to only go out with him if you really are interested in getting to know him better.
Sure, we've all heard the advice that you should go on a few dates with someone, even if you feel lukewarm about them, just in case they weren't at their best on your first date.
It’s all about making him feel like you’re willing to do some of the things he wants to do. Circle back to your first date conversation topics.
Remember all those things that he loved talking about on the first date?
And those that "grew on you" ended up turning into ex-boyfriends eventually.