One very important factor related to marriage is , the physical, emotional, psychological, and spiritual maturity of the individual. Herbert Armstrong gave the following timely advice: “Based on actual experience, my judgment is—and I think it is sound judgment guided and approved by God—that until out of the ‘teens’ a boy or girl is too young to marry! Armstrong suggested that most women in his day did not have the full mental, educational, emotional and spiritual readiness for marriage until age 23–25, and that most men were not ready (also including the matter of financial readiness) until age 24–26 (p. In today’s society, however, we often see young people reaching this level of maturity and responsibility even a few years later than Mr. Courtship After a man and woman have prayed and fasted in search of God’s guidance, and have seen that they do have the that indicate readiness, and after they have received positive counsel from parents, older established couples who know them well, and also the ministry, it is time to commit to the next stage in their relationship—courtship.
And it should never—if truly done God’s way—end in feelings of heartache and rejection.
Dating God’s way But if dating should be used to “get to know” brothers and sisters in Christ, and to serve God’s sons and daughters, when is it appropriate to move into a more serious, one-on-one relationship? The flowers will be gorgeous, with an intoxicating aroma wafting from them.
She will always be beautiful, always sweet and always brilliant.
She will always look up to and respect him and be deeply in love with him.
Most in today’s world see God’s way as an antiquated and unrealistic “mystery” (1 Corinthians 2:7).
In today’s high-tech “hook-up” culture, few have the time or patience to really “date.” Dating God’s way, however, requires character and skill development.Moving Forward So how does one attain the wedded bliss the Father intends? But when is it appropriate and advisable to build on that foundation?The according to God’s criteria and their own.” A more helpful answer, though, is much more detailed. Entering the serious courtship phase of a relationship requires the commitment and dedication of a man and woman to each other.Entering courtship should imply that the couple is determined has the basic qualifications to be a serious candidate to be a marriage partner.Dating, not courtship, is the time to discover whether the basic “big picture” factors (as noted in the list on page 11) are in place.God will do this, if you ask Him, and then refrain from getting in a hurry and taking it into your own hands! Part of seeking God’s guidance involves seeking pre-engagement counseling with a minister who knows the couple well.