But too many filters and rigid check-boxes can have you dismiss huge numbers of people at once – something that apps like Bumble, Happn and Tinder tried to do away with (though that brings its own set of issues).One 5ft 10in friend reports she saw only 400 potential men to browse when she logged in to And there’s no sense in ruling someone out for reasons that may become insignificant once you’ve met in real life.
The price and process mean only the dedicated remain – but equally, can lead to people dropping out mid-process.
Controversy swirled in 2010 around its lack of same-sex matching resulting in a site launched later for gay and bisexual daters called Compatible Partners, but e Harmony now offers matching for both mixed and same sex couples from the main homepage.
It seems unavoidable that if we have filters and tick-boxes for features and likes or dislikes, we could be cutting off literally thousands of potential suitors because of something we might have thought minor or irrelevant if we met in the flesh.
And, by the way, the tick-box that chooses whether you’re shown people with children or not can have an even more dramatic result, with 90% of the people I asked (a straw poll of 10 in the office) saying they’d chosen not to be shown people with children.
When she reduced her height to 5ft 9in, that rocketed to almost 2,000.
A full 1,600 men would have unknowingly discounted this amazing person because of 2.5cm of extra leg length – and she would have continued to find internet dating limited and unsuccessful.
There’s currently a 7-day free trial to communicate with matches for free until 1 January.
It’s a softly, softly approach – excellent for those new to internet dating or nervous about entering the melee, or using a fast-food dating app like Tinder.
Pros: Free to join and to have limited contact with members.
You can connect with Facebook so getting started is much quicker than with other sites.
However, they do have a live help service at their homepage to talk you through joining.